In my current home, I’ve raised a young son and a little daughter. The tiny tornadoes rip through this once serene home, getting up to and into, well, everything. Two dinky additions in my life have brought about massive changes in me, and I’ve come to realise that my (long) list of what should create the perfect home has completely transformed too. Top of that list? An open plan family room…
When I set my eyes on lucky number 50 (yes, my first home was no less than the 50th house I viewed… that probably tells you a lot about me) I knew it was the one for me because it ticked all of those wish-list boxes I had created 10 years ago, child-free. Don’t get me wrong, I did think ahead, I wanted no less than 3 bedrooms and a couple of reception rooms, so plenty of room for a potential family.
The thing I didn’t bank on was that the stretched hallway and tall staircase of this terrace house that was initially so appealing to me would become absolutely exhausting when carrying a large wriggling child on one hip–and usually a massive basket of laundry on the other. After completing several clumsy laps of our indoor mini marathon to get us dressed, fed, packed and out I now present myself to the world with a somewhat unhinged glint in my eye and a bedraggled ‘glow’. It feels nothing short of a messy miracle when we finally manage to spill out of our front door in a desperately undignified manner, with me wondering if it was even worth the battle at all.
Our random tasks seem to overlap one another as we trip over each other down the narrow hallway on our way. No matter where I am, they are too.
Open Plan Family Room Layout
These are the reasons I am now dreaming of a home with an open plan family room where the kitchen overlooks a lounge/play space. This amalgamation would mean that I get to be part of family fun whilst being a domestic goddess (those of you who know me in ‘real life’ may now laugh), as hearing those magical giggles way, wayyy down the hallway when I’m on dish duty just makes me want to chuck in the towel.
New tick-box number one for our dream home (whether the property search becomes reality or not) would be a small open plan family room/combined kitchen-lounge area, with possibly a dinky dining area squished in a nook.
Room Proportions for an Open Plan Family Room
I’m not seeking a huge space as this wouldn’t scratch the itch at all – what I’m hankering for are perfect proportions that allow the social areas we need whilst holding everything cute and cozy.
I see myself frisbeeing the breakfast dishes from a small kitchen island onto a casual table surrounded by banquette seating, whilst my kids cushion fight on the couch to a chaotic cartoon soundtrack: hell to some but heaven to me.
The last piece of this open plan family room puzzle would be glass doors that open out onto a garden. A garden is something that we are sadly lacking in our mid-terraced home. A sans-garden house was a conscious choice made long ago as part of a child-free couple with a social life and no time, or inclination, to mow a lawn. Boy do I regret that choice now. To see my children’s sheer delight in running around their grandparents garden, then return to nothing more than a narrow grey slab of concrete is crushing.
Hmm, I’m realising now that a garden is actually joint number one on my list of new house ‘demands’. In my own personal vision of an ideal home for our particular little family, an interior and exterior family space definitely go hand in hand, one would just not hit the dream mark without the other.
I do still appreciate the stretched layout of our single use rooms in this house, but I just can’t help imagining life in spaces that flow into each other; where family activities meet and embrace rather than segregate and stop. The grass is always greener in someone else’s garden.
I know that there would be times when I’d long to have some peace in the kitchen when the kids are screaming at full pitch. I also know that seeing our belongings all packed up and this first home of ours standing empty would move me to tears. I know I’d think of how I brought each of my children home from hospital and set them down safely in that living room, and of how I fed them their first solid food in that kitchen and giggled at their surprised little faces.
However, I also know that our family life could be so much more enriched by the home I see in my daydreams.
So there we have it, an open plan family room, tick-box number one all set. I’ll explore my other wish list bits soon, and there are quite a few. If we ever do go in search of our new dream house it’s got a good chance of being our lucky number 500…